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Kid confidence, help your child make friends, build resilience, and develop real self-esteem, Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD ; [foreword by Michele Borba]

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Kid confidence

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Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD ; [foreword by Michele Borba]

help your child make friends, build resilience, and develop real self-esteem

"Help your child cultivate real, lasting confidence! In Kid Confidence, a licensed clinical psychologist and parenting expert offers practical, evidence-based parenting strategies to help kids foster satisfying relationships, develop competence, and make choices that fit who they are and want to become. As parents, it's heartbreaking to hear children say negative things about themselves. But as children grow older and begin thinking about the world in more complex ways, they also become more self-critical. Alarmingly, studies show that self-esteem, for many children, takes a sharp drop starting around age eight, and this decline continues into the early teen years. So, how can you turn the tide on this upsetting trend and help your child build genuine self-esteem? With this guide, you'll learn that self-esteem isn't about telling kids they're "special." It's about helping them embrace the freedom that comes with a quiet ego -- away of being in the world that isn'tpreoccupied with self-judgment, and instead embraces a compassionate view of oneself and others that allows for both present awareness and personal growth. When kids are less focused on evaluating andcomparing themselves with others, they are freer to empathize with others, embrace learning, and connect with the values that are bigger than themselves. You'll also discover how your child's fundamental needs for connection, competence, and choice are essential for real self-esteem. Connection involves building meaningful and satisfying relationships that create a sense of belonging. Competence means building tangible skills. And choice is about being able to make decisions, figure out what matters, and choose to act in ways that are consistent with personal values. When children are able to fulfill these three basic needs, the question of "Am I good enough?" is less likely to come up. If your child is suffering from low self-esteem, you need a nuanced parenting approach. Let this book guide you as you help your child create unshakeable confidence and lasting well-being."--, Provided by publisher

Foreword -- Part 1. Introduction. Why telling our kids they're wonderful doesn't build real self-esteem (and what it does) -- How children's self-esteem changes with age -- Part 2. Connection. "Why are you always yelling at me?": when your child reacts intensely to parental correction -- "You love her more": when your child struggles iwth sibling jealousy or conflict -- "Nobody likes me!": when your child feels friendless -- Part 3. Competence."I can't do it! I quit!": when your child gives up easily -- "It's not good enough!": when your child suffers with harsh self-criticism and perfectionism -- Part 4. Choice. "I can't decide": when your child feels trapped by indecision and helplessness" -- "I don't fit in!": when your child struggles with feeling different -- Part 5. The bigger picture. Coping with bullying, teasing, and other meaness -- Real self-esteem and the joys of a quiet ego -- Works cited and consulted

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Help your child make friends, build resilience, and develop real self-esteem